LOVE IS NOT BLIND ( If love is Blind, How can there be Love at First Sight )

Often times I have heard the popular saying "LOVE IS BLIND" and every time I do something from inside me disagrees totally. After a while of ruminating the line I seldom ask my self the question "Is love really blind? A lot of us will say yes to this and again i have another question which is "should we wait till marriage open our eyes to the realities of 'love'? Hmmm! I am not a marriage counselor neither am I specialized in love nor match making but I want you to take a walk with me as we stroll into the life of Amoke Aderibigbe. Amoke was a mother who was two years shy of attaining the golden age. On a saturday afternoon, she brought her 25 years old daughter who have been battling sickle cell disease since birth and have survived countless crisis but yet was suffering from another. During my conversation with Amoke while her child was in the ward she narrated a story that she stated happened about 26yrs ago. After a deep breathe, word kept pouring out of her mouth as tears simultaneously rolled down her cheek as the enunciated that "just like yesterday.......Adewale asked me to marry him. We were so madly in love that we refuse to yield the doctor's advice which indicated that it is dangerous for us to get married due to the AS and AS nature of myself and Adewale's genotype. We were so filled with affections for each other that we couldnt see beyond our hearts , though we did the genotype check many times after but the result remained same. We decided to extend our faith by getting married and resolved that if we should have two children we might be lucky that none of them will be sickle celled. Ha! Ha! HA! she sobbed and continued "Adewale died immediately I gave birth to Ireti who unluckily was diagnosed of sickle cell disease and since then, it has been only me and her in the battle. I have spent close to a fortune already and I feel guilty of putting ireti in this condition". After crying for a while, she rushed to the ward to check on her sick child and said to her pronto "Ireti i am very sorry I did this to you,please forgive me please! Please!" Just then Ireti started shouting in pain and her mother rushed out for the ward screaming doctor! doctor! doctor!! After the doctor confirmed ireti's death to her mother she immediately slumped to death. Amoke and her family's story haven't since then left me with something to ponder over and today I decided to share to as to educate and enlighten my friends and everyone seeing this that the popular line "LOVE IS BLIND" is lame and could be the thin line between a bright future and an oblique one. Please people, once you are AS, there is no better for you than to marry someone with genotype AA. This is for your own good. By so doing, we can eradicate the sickle cell disease from our society.

prevention is cheaper than cure!!!  

Cheers.

Bola health Talks for Triad Inc

Nelson Mandela: 10 surprising facts you probably didn't know

Send us your stories, memories and photographs of the Nobel Peace prize winner and former South African president.

 

Nelson Mandela, the prisoner-turned-president who reconciled South Africa after the end of apartheid, died on Thursday, December 5, according to the country's president, Jacob Zuma. Mandela was 95

He was loved and admired the world over, profiled in books and movies, and showered with awards and accolades. But even the most public of personalities have little-known facts buried in their biographies.

Here are 10 surprising facts you probably didn't know about Nelson Mandela:

1. He lived up to his name: Mandela's birth name was Rolihlahla. In Xhosa, one of the official languages of South Africa, "Rolihlahla" means "pulling the branch of a tree" -- or, troublemaker. (The name "Nelson" was given to him by his teacher on his first day of elementary school. It's not clear why she chose that particular name. It was the early 1920s, and African children were given English names so British colonials could pronounce them easily).

2. He had a cameo in a Spike Lee film: He had a bit part in Spike Lee's 1992 biopic "Malcolm X." At the very end of the movie, he plays a teacher reciting Malcolm X's famous speech to a room full of Soweto school kids. But the pacifist Mandela wouldn't say "by any means necessary." So Lee cut back to a footage of Malcolm X to close out the film.

3. There's a woodpecker named after him: From Cape Town to California, streets named after Mandela abound. But he's also been the subject of some rather unusual tributes. Last year, scientists named a prehistoric woodpecker after him: Australopicus nelsonmandelai. In 1973, the physics institute at Leeds University named a nuclear particle the 'Mandela particle.'

4. He married a First Lady: Before tying the knot with Mandela on his 80th birthday, Graca Machel was married to Mozambique President Samora Machel. Her marriage to Mandela after her husband's death means she has been the first lady of two nations.

5. He was a master of disguise: When Mandela was eluding authorities during his fight against apartheid, he disguised himself in various ways, including as a chauffeur. The press nicknamed him "the Black Pimpernel" because of his police evasion tactics. "I became a creature of the night. I would keep to my hideout during the day, and would emerge to do my work when it became dark," he says in his biography, "Long Walk to Freedom."

6. A bloody sport intrigued him: Besides politics, Mandela's other passion was boxing. "I did not like the violence of boxing. I was more interested in the science of it - how you move your body to protect yourself, how you use a plan to attack and retreat, and how you pace yourself through a fight," he says in his biography.

7. His favorite dish is probably not yours: He's been wined and dined by world leaders. But what Mandela loved eating most was tripe. Yup, the stomach lining of farm animals.

8. He quit his day job: He studied law at the University of Witwatersrand in Johannesburg and opened the nation's first black law firm in Johannesburg in 1952.

9. He was on the U.S. terror watch list: Mandela wasn't removed from the U.S. terror watch list until 2008 -- at age 89. He and other members of the African National Congress were placed on it because of their militant fight against apartheid.

10. He drew his inspiration from a poem: While locked up at Robben Island for decades, Mandela would read William Ernest Henley's "Invictus" to fellow prisoners. The poem, about never giving up, resonated with Mandela for its lines "I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul." You may know it from the movie, Invictus, starring Morgan Freeman as Mandela.

Triadnet Inc: Nelson Mandela "MADIBA" A Fulfilled Life

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Nelson Mandela "MADIBA" A Fulfilled Life

"Nelson Mandela, the revered statesman who emerged from prison after 27 years to lead South Africa out of decades of apartheid, has died"....CNN

"Nelson Mandela, South Africa's first black president who led the peaceful transition from white-only rule, has died aged 95, after a long
illness"...BBC

Mandela one of history's 'greatest liberators', dies ...Vanguard

Wait a minute !!

Do you know that an average of 154,889 people die daily? Shocked?

But some days ago it seems like it was only PAUL WAlKER that died for the day and today again the whole world is talking about just one man's death.

Then I ask myself, "why this people, what about the rest?"

After a short while, answers dawned and I summarised them all to "Making Positive Impacts"!

Today he’s gone home and we’ve lost one of the most influential, courageous and profoundly
good man that any of us will share time with on this Earth but then I deduced that a life well spent isn't judged by its duration but its donations and also that consciously or unconsciously we are all creating history and it is with which we are going to be remembered when we are gone.

Take a break and try to think of the kind of caption people will put against your pictures when you are gone.

Do you sincerely like the first caption that surfaced?

Are you really offering anything worthy of glorious remembrance?

Death to some people is a reason to not want to do more, its a reason for them to say "please jur at the end we go all quench jur" and to some of us, its a motivation to want to do more and more before it comes. We are like Y.O.L.O so we want to set a standard. A standard that will stand as our legacies when we are gone. That answers the question why Paul and why Mandela?

I will like to leave you with this question till you see my message again that "HOW WILL YOU LIKE TO BE REMEMBERED?"

How do you make the RIGHT Choices?

Watch this: Barry Schwartz: The paradox of choice

That's the perfect question, I'd ask you if I was sitting across the table with you, not in an arrogant manner but with a firm sincereity and a honest tone.

But before you're quick to respond, I'd like to know what hard decisions you've had to come to and what was the outcome of it.

And that's when I'd have a fair idea who you really are.

Why?

Its simple

Choices are what makes us, from the littlest to the greatest.

Regardless of your background you're bound to be faced with some decisions, and your choice will determine where your destination will be.

Decisions make us dig deep into ourselves and pull out the core motive of our desires, it is at this point that everything grinds to a halt so you come face-to-face with the real you on the inside that's been hidden away.

Shortcuts are okay, but attimes you just have to take the long and windy roads because that's when you grow.

So, I'll share with you a portion of Amazon founder Jeff Bezos speech;

"What I want to talk to you about today is the difference between gifts and choices. Cleverness is a gift, kindness is a choice. Gifts are easy -- they're given after all. Choices can be hard. You can seduce yourself with your gifts if you're not careful, and if you do, it'll probably be to the detriment of your choices.

I will hazard a prediction. When you are 80 years old, and in a quiet moment of reflection narrating for only yourself the most personal version of your life story, the telling that will be most compact and meaningful will be the series of choices you have made. In the end, we are our choices..."

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
"Choice consists of the mental process of judging the merits of multiple options and selecting one or more of them. While a choice can be made between imagined options ("what would I do if ...?"), often a choice is made between real options and followed by the corresponding action..."

SELF-SURRENDER & ALIENATION IS MADNESS

As I watch the Nigerian political development, I have been
overwhelmed by two thoughts, or two questions, and I just
cannot help myself out.
The first arises from SOCIAL CONTRACT by Jean Jacque
Rousseau that:
"To say a man gives himself gratuitously,
is to say what is absurd, and inconceivable;
such an act is null and illegitimate, from the
mere fact, he who does it is out of his mind.
To say the same of a whole people
(Nigerians for example), is to say a people
of madmen and madmind, create no right "
The question arising therefrom is that, will it then be wrong
to say that we as Nigerians having surrendered our rights
or having been alienated by the present administration ,
from political, economic and social democracy, have
become mad people?. Otherwise, how has it come to this
stage?
Secondly,we just need to be a little bit patient to see
events unfolding in this languorous prefecture called
Nigeria. Meanwhile if the appointments of Labarun Maku,
Reuben Abati, and Doyin Okupe come true in the
redeployment that follows the cabinet re-shuffle, who will
tell me that political brigandage and privileged demagogy,
has not yielded bumper harvest s for these Chief
Propagandists?

Wisdom search

Life requires wisdom to live peaceful, yet its greatest Evil is ' MONEY '.  we all know that money is evil yet very essential for our daily needs, we need wisdom from the almighty to be able to balance this urge.

- - - Money can buy - - -

A bed but not sleep
A book but not brain
Food but not appetite
Vehicle but not safe driving,
A house but not Home,
Medicine but not health,
Luxuries but not culture,
Amusement but not happiness,
A business but not success,
An instrument but not music,
A crucifix but not savior,
A church but not heaven . . . .

If money can't buy all this, then you need not be told what to do.

Stay safe. Use your head.

control is vital

Control is vital... People will remote your life....Unless you take CONTROL.

 

Control part (1)

Its all about control...

From the high and mighty in the government to the lowest peasant. Somebody is controlling or about to control something.

The media is doing it,
The school systems are doing it,
The police as well...

Control is a basic function of our lives but when it comes to your future make sure you're found holding the reins.

You are responsible for arriving at the destination you desire.

The wind of opportunity will always blow, but the question is have we set our sail, or how willing are we to grab the oars.

If you aren't behind the steering wheel, I think its quite obvious you're most definitely not in control whether you believe it or not.

Don't be naive about this because the clock is ticking.

So here's how to know if you're not in control;

what's stopping you from achieving the goals you have set for yourself?

Think deeply and identify these UFOs(Unidentified False Objections)

Here's how to take over;

View yourself as this invincible person that cannot be stopped( you actually are), and start acting on those dreams of yours.

Step by step...

As you do so, watch control begin to come back to you.

The Revelation of Love Part (2)

 It hurts to Love some one and not be Loved in return, but what is more painful is to Love some one and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.  May be God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right ones so that, when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift. Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, and the romance in a relationship, and find out you still care for that person.

A sad thing in life is when you meet some one who means a lot to you only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be, and you just have to let go.

When the door of happiness closes another opens but often times we look so longer to the closed door, that we don't see the one which has been opened for us. The best kind of friend is the kind you can just be with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had. It is true that we don't know what we've gotten till we lose it, but it is also true that we don't know what we've been missing, until it arrives.

Giving some one all your Love is never an assurance that they Love you back, don't expect Love in return, just wait for it to grow in their heart, but if it doesn't be contempt it grew in yours.

There are things you Love to hear that you will never hear from the person who you will like to hear them from, but don't be so deaf as not to hear it from the one who says it from their heart.
Never say goodbye if you still want to try, never give up if you still feel you can go on, never say you don't Love a person any more if you can't let go.

Love comes to those who still hope although they've been disappointed,

 to those who still believe although they've been been betrayed, 

to those those who still Love although they've been hurt before, and 

to those who have the courage and faith to build trust again.
It takes only a minute to get a crush on some one, an hour to like some one, and a day to Love some one, 

 but it takes a lifetime to forget some one.

Don't go for looks, they can deceive, don't go for wealth, even that fades away, go for some one who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Hope you find the one that makes you smile.

Breaking news: Jonathan sacks Minister of Education, eight others

President Good-luck Jonathan Wednesday shocked members of the Federal Executive
Council as he sacked nine members of the
council.

The sacked ministers did not have any inkling
of their impending sack as some of them
attended the weekly federal executive council
meeting Wednesday.

President Jonathan reportedly thanked the
sacked ministers for their services to the
nation and wished them well in their future
endeavors.

Top of the the list of Ministers
sacked Wednesday was the Minister of

Foreign Affairs, Olugbenga Ashiru,

Minister of National Planning,  Dr. Shamshudeen Usma.

and

Professor Ruquyatu Rufai, Minister of Education.

others

are Hajia Hadiza Mailafia (Environment),

Mrs. Ama Peppel (Housing),

Minister of state for power Zainab Kuchi;

Minister of state for defence Erelu Olusola Obada, 

Minister of state for Agriculture Buka Tijani as well as  

Minister of science and tech- Professor Ita Bassey Ewah.

Do Believe

This is probably the most distressing time to be a youth in Nigeria.

It is also probably the most interesting time to be a youth in Nigeria.

To paraphrase Charles Dickens,

this is the best of times and the worst of times. Insecurity, poverty and hopelessness stalk the landscape.

At the same time, hope, opportunity and prosperity beckons. The pessimists will argue
that things are so bad that they will get worse. Nigeria is going to hell, he will conclude.

The optimists will say that things are so bad that they will only get better. Nigeria is breaking through
he will conclude.

Is Nigeria going to hell or breaking through?

I will like to invite the Nigerian youth to be pragmatic optimists.

I believe we are at the cusp of a great thing. Something is about to be birthed. We are going through the excruciating birth pangs. But we can go past the birth-stool or have a still-
birth. It all depends.
 
And

" what it depends on is youth optimism "

The only thing that has changed the world today is a small group of thoughtful individual who believes in the beauty of their dreams, all they see is GAIN not PAIN, optimism is there watchword n they did it.
 
I am not perfect and none of us is, but I carry a perfect idea in ma MIND which is ' Nigeria' can and will still for sure be a better place filled of peace n harmony!
Keep believing...
Never give-up.

the revelation of love

THE REVELATION OF LOVE

The word love has no doubt created conflict of thoughts, actions, and conducts in the interwoven relationship of men and ladies.  It has brought about the collision of many people and broken many hearts. It has destroyed many souls and vandalized many prospective ambitions in the marital life.

I, however discovered in this recent times through my experience that all these occur because we don’t really know and appreciate the meaning and significance of LOVE.

Love is not all about fun and good times, Love is all about sharing moments together irrespective of what these moments hold, maybe “sweet or bitter”, “encouraging or discouraging”, “in happiness or sadness”, maybe “good or bad”, “smooth or rough”, “flexible or rigid”, “rich or poor”, “moody or open” love accepts it all. Love is no respecter of behavior status, names, caliber, level, class, beauty or handsomeness, outfit, background and what you have to offer.

Love is not about what I stand to gain or what is in store for me, it’s not about finding faults or sexual satisfaction; it is not all about keeping dates or definition of whom you are, it’s not about conditional acceptance or a thing of periodical settlement.

It’s about each others opinion, making positive remarks, influencing each other in positive ways, sharing all together, respecting each other, seeing the best in each other, never wanting to say goodbye, being very ready to say sorry.

It’s about renewal of feelings, and saying the truth no matter how difficult.

LOVE PROCLAIMERS,

Love is not a thing of first sight and it’s not a thing of impression and oppression, rather it’s about studying and knowing each others flaw and greatness.

It's about locating the treasure of each others heart

DEDICATED TO ALL LOVE PROCLAIMERS.

Can you swim against the tide?

 Everyone knows going with the flow takes no effort at all.

Imagine you were in a river, and the current is what determines

where you're heading...would you consider that to be swimming.

Nope.

Because you don't have to do anything and that is pretty what most people are indulging today. 

Accepting what everyone says or do without stopping for a moment to think.

No one can do the thinking for you, you do it yourself and that's the spirit of successful people

The never-say-die attitude.

Don't accept every creed or dogma just because its popularly accepted.

You are unique so think that way and act that way.

And when it comes to decisions that could change your life, weigh it out carefully and act as an individual.

Its high time you stop living your life by default, why don't you customize it a bit by simply changing what you consider to be your reality.

Like someone once told me, spending money doesn't hardly takes much thinking, but making money does.

I could go blah blah blah...

And you could still sit and do nothing.

But...

If you want to go against the flow, learn the required skill  and run with it.

stick with www.triadnetinc.blogspot.com and live with it.

Choosing the right partner

After thorough consideration of the suggested topic coupled with several reports on relationships/marriage breakdown from celebrities to non-celebrities, I feel obligated to write something about how to choose a partner and how to know if you are with the right person.

I discovered that every relationship problem(s) originates from the choice of partner and the reason why we go into a relationship.

Nature has designed it in a way that males choose from the ocean of ladies around and females choose from among the guys that walk up to them alone . So this piece will be more useful to female as its crucial they don't make the choice they will live to regret.

So,females please stay with me on this and endeavour to share with as much as possible females out there.

*sigh*

Now, Get a piece of paper and try this:

LIST 1 - Write a list of the qualities you want to cultivate in your 20’s. e.g I want to be more responsible with my money,I want to get married in 3years, I want to figure out my spirituality. I want to be more MINDful of how I treat my body,I want to increase my productivity rate by adding to my intellectual quotient etc.)

LIST 2 - Now, write a list of the qualities you want in a partner that must measure up with your wants in LIST 1 e.g (he/she must share my views on marriage and family,spiritual,doesn't smoke or drink heavily,has a genuine pursuit with a tangible chance of actualising it,high moral dexterity etc), and BONUS qualities
that are not essential (billionaire *grin*.).

Now, If you are in a relationship already, How does your person measure up to List 2?
How do they contribute to List 1? Be honest.

I am sure by now you will know if you have being wasting your time in a romantic relationship that will yield nothing than to hurt you or you are with the right partner.

If you are not in any yet now you know what to do so as to make the right choice.
Be Wise, No guy should beat you or disrespect you.
But it all depends on the choice you make now.

Ego Trap (Part 2)

THE EGO TRAP (PART 2)

Ego has no gain, rather it brings loss, without much ado, let's refer to a story from the bible, the parable of the rich fool.

 -Luke 12: 13-21-

“The ground of a certain rich man yielded an abundant harvest.
v17 He thought to himself,
‘What shall I do?
I have no place to store my crops.’
 “Then he said,
‘This is what I’ll do.
I will tear down my barns and build bigger ones, and there I will store my surplus grain And I’ll say to myself, You have plenty of grain laid up for many years.
 Take life easy;
eat, drink and be merry.”

But God said to him,
‘You fool! This very night your life will be demanded from you. Then who will get what you have prepared for yourself.

Relating this story to our personal lives, we'll realize that ''LIFE'' itself isn't ours to control, its of the almighty. Humble yourself so as to be elevated.

Find Your Mission

A couple of weeks back a good friend of mine went for a seminar, he honoured the request.

Zuberu Kadiri was one of the speakers on stage, during the Q&A session he made a striking point that I felt was the driving force behind his dream.

Here's a clip of his story:

Zuberu had just met his wife, he didn't have a job nor a steady income then, but that didn't stop or change his dream of getting married to his sweetheart.

They eventually got married, but as a result of the financial constraints, they both moved to his friends house...

One striking thing that stood out was that Zuberu's driving force was his indebtedness to his wife, to provide for her both for now and the future.

I guess you get the picture...

You can't get very far without a mission, the reason why you wake up every morning, what drives you even when things don't look so good.

No one gives us a mission, we owe it to ourselves to define our mission and stay the course.

And for your information...

Your Mission is Possible only when you believe it is.